Mindset Monday

Happiness is a Choice and a Responsibility

you are exactly as happy as you decide to be

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Happiness is…

I have to admit that it was just a few short years ago that I learned and truly came to understand the fact that happiness was a choice that I could make and that others were not responsible for my level of happiness. For most of my life, this was a complete and total foreign concept. In my former opinion, the way others treated me had a direct effect on my level of happiness. My circumstances were a determining factor of whether or not I was happy for the day, or week. It took me 40+ years of trial and error to learn that happiness is a choice, and a responsibility. My choice. My responsibility.

happiness is a choice

… a choice

You can choose right now, in this very moment, to be happy. As we have talked about in previous Mindset Monday posts, we attract what we think about. It’s true. Are you focused on the fact that your spouse didn’t follow through on something, or your children didn’t clean up their room, or that a co-worker has worked your last nerve once again? Or are you focused on the fact that you have lived to see another day? That you have the ability to read this post right now? That you are alive and well and good things are coming your way?

Make the choice right now to find one or two aspects of your life to be happy about in this very moment. Truly focus on those things and how thankful you are for them. Make the choice to focus on those positive aspects for the remainder of the day (and find more good things along the way). It’s a choice. You can do it.


I am responsible for my own happiness

… a responsibility

Our happiness is not only a choice we make, it is our responsibility. Our happiness is not the responsibility of our spouse, our children, our parents, our friends, etc. It is solely up to us. You only have one “you”, one life, one day at a time. You are responsible for how you choose to think, how you choose to respond to life, and what level of happiness you will operate in.

If you find this concept entirely too difficult to accept, then I would challenge you to take inventory of your thoughts, your inner circle (the people closest to you), and your decisions. Is there anything in your life that you need to eliminate? Do you need to spend some serious time and energy focusing on filling YOUR cup up? Are you allowing the actions and words of others to determine YOUR mindset and self worth? If you have given control of your happiness to other people, my challenge to you today is to take it back. Right now. Make the choice. It’s up to you. It’s your responsibility.


Ralph Marston happiness is a choice quote

Happiness is a choice, and a Responsibility

You owe it to yourself, your family, and those who share life with you to choose happiness. When you are happy on the inside, it’s obvious on the outside. Happiness is contagious. Spread the love. Decide today that you will only spend time thinking on the good things in your life. Let everything else occupy only the time needed to deal with the situation, and then let it go. Remember, what you think about, you bring about. What you focus on, you get more of. What do you want your tomorrow to look like? When you have answered that question, focus on the details that will bring it to pass. One thought at a time. You’ve got this!

I have listed a few resources below that teach on this very topic. I’m not claiming that these resources will make anyone’s life perfect, but when we learn to focus on the positive and choose happiness, our lives will inevitably head in that direction.

*I have no official affiliation with any of these companies and these are not affiliate links.

This is Scientific Proof that Happiness is a Choice
The Secret
Jack Canfield
How to Choose Happiness
4 Ways of Choosing Happiness from Within

These are just a few of several hundred resources that exist on the topic of choosing happiness and focusing our thoughts on positive aspects of our lives. A little bit of research will provide you with all of the information you need to focus your thoughts and energy on happiness. Find the resource you connect to. Find what works for you and do it. Remember, happiness is a choice and a responsibility. Decide today and make it happen for yourself.


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Smiling our way to happiness,

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  • Yvette

    I love all of this… it took me about 36 years to learn that lesson but it changed my entire life.

    March 27, 2018 at 9:19 pm
    • lifewithjessi

      I always say, better late than never! You have the rest of your life to choose happiness!

      March 30, 2018 at 11:24 am
  • Jessica

    I absolutely love the law of attraction. I’ve suffered worth depression my whole life and sadness and negativity seep in every day it seems but I always remind myself I have the choice to change it!

    March 31, 2018 at 2:40 pm
    • lifewithjessi

      EXACTLY! It’s all about the choices we make. So proud of you. Depression is a real thing. I’ve experienced it a bit myself. Very tricky to get out of sometimes, but we can do it once choice at a time!

      March 31, 2018 at 3:01 pm
  • Brenda Copper

    Two very true. One of my deepest regrets in life is that it took me 40+ years to realize that only I could make me happy. I can talk myself into being unhappy or I can talk myself in being happy. So every morning the first thing I say is thank God for giving me this gift for another day of life and please help me make the most of it

    April 2, 2018 at 8:30 am
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