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Are you one of those competitive parents? You know, the kind that should be playing the sport instead of watching your kids play the sport because YOU know exactly how the game should be played? The kind that yells so loud from the sidelines that every other player, parent, and umpire/referee gives you the side eye? You know. One of THOSE parents.
Are you one of THOSE competitive parents?
You know the ones I’m talking about. Yeah, I used to be one of THOSE parents. I sure did. I admit it. Not saying I was verbally abusive to anyone, or anything like that. Not at all. I mean, that would be cray-cray. But, I was maybe a little vocal about the plays and calls. And, you know, my voice carries easily…so, it might have seemed like I was yelling at everyone on the field (including my child). And I might have exchanged a few words with an umpire who made several horrible calls. Sigh. #parentfail
But, I am happy to report that I have come soooooo far over the years, and I have made major improvements! I am now pretty calm and stay fairly quiet at games. I do get loud when cheering my kiddos and their teammates on, but I keep my mouth pretty much shut otherwise. I no longer yell (communicate loudly) directly Let me interject that my son plays select baseball, along with football and basketball. My daughter runs track and is now playing select and school volleyball. They keep us busy, but we love it and wouldn’t have it any other way.
Is it a bad thing to want to win?
So, yeah, about the competitive parent thing. I am naturally a competitive person. Not competitive about every, single thing in life…but if you attach an award, title, prize, or anything of the sort to something, then I automatically have to win. Like, my heart starts racing and my mind immediately goes to a dark, strategic place that HAS to figure out a way to win. I do not condone cheating, so it’s not THAT dark of a place. But I do enjoy winning. So, therefore, I enjoy it equally as much when my offspring wins too! Except for when we are playing board/card/video games at home. Then I AB-SO-LUTE-LY plan on winning. Sorry kiddos. Mommy isn’t taking it easy on ya! 😉
I don’t think it’s necessarily a bad thing to enjoy winning. I mean, we all enjoy winning. Please tell me I’m right and I’m not some weirdo off on my own “competitive freak” island! Ha! I think the desire to win can push you towards goals. I know that same “drive” has helped me accomplish some pretty great things in my life, like going back to school as adult with two young children and a working husband. Yeah. That took a “desire to win” to finish that!
Anywhoo, I am happy to say that, while I am still extremely competitive, I no longer put it on full-out public display at my kiddos’ games. I have learned how to have “inner dialogue”, and I usually get up and quietly pace around the outfield when necessary. My husband might need to take a few pointers from me. Ha!